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Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Defending men from Michelle Obama

Oh, Lord. At what point does the Obama campaign finally put a muzzle on Michelle? It certainly works well for us on this side of the aisle (keep it up girl, you're doing great!), but when does Barack Obama start realizing that she's eclipsing Teresa Heinz Kerry in the dumb comments category?

Her newest idiotic drivel: that men are selfish and a mess!
In a 2004 interview with the Chicago Tribune, Michelle observed: "What I notice about men, all men, is that their order is me, my family, God is in there somewhere, but me is first. ... And, for women, me is fourth, and that's not healthy." This is not a radical observation: Get a half-dozen gals together with a few bottles of Beaujolais, and a similar theme will eventually emerge. (Trust me on this.)


As for her on-the-trail patter, Michelle is far from a feminist bomb-thrower, instead relying heavily on conventional, even old-fashioned, material. She gigs Barack for being too much of a guy: messy, thoughtless, and only marginally competent when it comes to life maintenance. More than once, Michelle has laughed about how she assigns Barack easy-to-manage projects, like procuring balloons for their daughter's birthday party, rather than anything more involved, like picking out goodie bags--"You'd walk in there and wander around the aisles for an hour, and then your head would explode." It's a folksy, humanizing shtick guaranteed to have women nodding en masse in amused agreement precisely because it is such well-trod territory. Women have long bonded over the knowledge that their men, though masters of the universe, are a disaster on the home front. It is a semi-comic routine as old as marriage itself: Sure, my husband can slaughter a mammoth with his bare hands, but can he put his club away? Can he pick his loin cloth up off the floor? And God forbid I ask him to supervise the kids' birthday down at the tar pits. No one would make it home alive. The fact that Michelle tells such tales on her hubby may be a departure for political wives. Yet, for wives in general, it is anything but new.

It's interesting to me that she assumes that all men are crappy husbands like her husband apparently is. That entire article blasts him -- for never helping out around the house, for putting his family as his last priority, for being selfish, for being incompetent... it goes on and on and on.

The thing is, Michelle sweetums, that most men are not like your husband. I know few men who are all "me first, me first, me first!". Most men I know bust their balls to be able to provide for their family. Most men I know make unbelievable sacrifices for their family. Just because Barack Obama cannot -- or will not -- do the same for his family does not mean that all men do the same. I know man-bashing is tres chic these days, but good grief, when does it end?

Women, say it with me: MEN. ARE. NOT. THE. ENEMY.

And this "harmless" disparagement of husbands among wives is not harmless either, ladies. It may seem like it's just fun and games to put down your husband when you're gossiping with your girlfriends, but it isn't. Would you say that kind of stuff to his face? Would you tell your husband that he can't take care of himself if his life depended on it, that he's selfish and doesn't pay enough attention to his family? If you wouldn't, then don't go around laughing about it with your girlfriends without a second thought. Men seem stoic and unbreakable, but they aren't. If your husband heard you telling your girlfriends how selfish he is, how he never helps out around the house, how he's such a mess, how he can't take care of himself... even if you meant it in jest, I can guarantee you that it would kill him inside. And you, loving wife, would probably never even know it.

Yes, women do this all the time -- we gossip with our friends and put our men down without a second thought. But why do we do it? Why don't we talk up our husbands more? Why don't we tell our friends what a wonderful father he is, or how great he is about helping us out when we just can't do it anymore, or how supportive he is? Why is it we find it so much easier to talk down our men? We're obviously with them for a reason; we fell in love with them because of how wonderful they are. Why is it so hard to express that?

I wonder how Barack Obama feels hearing his wife say this kind of stuff about him, as well. And what's interesting to me is that, if his wife can't even trust him to be competent enough to run his own life, how in the world can he run the country?

Michelle's no Jackie O.

Hat Tip: Dr. Helen


Anonymous said...

Be careful! Sticking up for men is a crime these days. Look what happened to Dr. Laura for suggesting that women could possibly drive their men to cheat.

Me said...

She keeps putting her feet in his mouth. She hates Americas, she thinks most Americans are lazy and stupid, and now she hates men...except for hers, of course.

Is it any wonder that she's suddenly disappeared off the campaign? I see her sitting bound and gagged in some motel room, under the guise of a few of Barack's bodyguards, with instructions not to release her until the primaries are over.

Angry White Guy said...

If I found out my SO spoke about me like that behind my back, I would end the relationship, and file for divorce if married.

If you can't talk shit to me to my face, you don't get to do it behind my back. On the bright side, you can tell them all how horrible I am for dumping your sorry ass.

Angry White Guy said...

I would then go attempt to bang your sister, and then make sure to let you know how much better she is.

But only because I'm an asshole. :)

Angry White Guy said...

And, of cource, I mean "your" and "you" in the nebulous, non-specific way. No one should read into that that I'm talking to Cassy... As if she'd have dated me to begin with.

I mean, she DOES have class and standards.

This is likely the best I could do... http://www.theonion.com/content/opinion/act_now_to_take_advantage_of_my

Joe said...

Cassy, thank you for your spirited defense of men. My last ex-gf was one of those women who had no problem ripping on men when she got together with "the girls" and would actually defend that practice to me saying "we're just bonding, it doesn't mean I don't respect you!"

I confronted her about it one day and she laughed it off - I was being too sensitive. I asked her how she'd feel if I told all my friends that she was barely competent to do the simplest things like pay the bills or balance her checkbook (both of which are true - if I didn't pay her bills they didn't get paid), or if I were to tell them that she had a secret stash of candy and was prone to binge eating when she thought she was gaining weight (also true) or depressed (also true), and she came unglued. How dare I tell my friends those things, didn't I love her? Didn't I respect her at all or have any respect for our relationship? I explained that I had never, and would never, tell my friends those things for precisely those reasons and that's why I was so hurt and disappointed to hear her run me down to her friends. We didn't last much longer as a couple after that.

Now I'm dating a wonderful woman who is nothing like my ex. As it happens they work in the same office and my new gf says that the ex and her mates still talk trash about men in general and their bf's in particular but not around her. Seems that the one time they did my new gf spoiled their fun by pointing out all the things I did for her and around the house, and what a considerate and attentive man I was. Not only did hearing that encourage me to be an even better bf, I got a certain satisfaction to hear that the news deflated the cackling hens and my ex-gf in particular.

Some folks will never learn, you don't talk smack about someone you love and expect them to "take it" because they love you - that's not love, it's sadomasochism and it's mentally unhealthy for both parties.