Cassy: guys can do some nasty stuff when theyre kissing that i just do not understand
Friend: like what?
Cassy: like... shoving their tongue all the way down your throat
Friend: and u don't like that? =D
Cassy: ew, no... no girl does lol
Cassy: or when theyre trying to like, play with your tongue with their tongue or something. its like, NO. just DONT DO IT.
Friend: really? I always liked doing that
Friend: now you're going to give me a complex
After that conversation, I got to thinking. Men must not realize what makes a guy a bad kisser. And let me tell you: a bad kiss will ruin it. You can have the best first date in all recorded history, with the best chemistry any couple has ever felt together. But if you end it with a horrible kiss, all of that will be erased and I guarantee you both of you will leave feeling disappointed. A good or bad kiss can make a huge difference.
So, I figured I'd try and help out. Last night, I asked a bunch of my girlfriends to tell me some of their worst kissing experiences, and they were more than willing to rise to the occasion. Apparently, bad kissing plagues many women, so this post must be needed.
Here's what they had to say were the worst things a guy could do to ruin a kiss (and these are direct quotes!):
Obviously, a recurring theme is saliva control (or the lack thereof). I would think this one would be obvious. As one of my friends said, take a second to swallow. Is it that hard to figure out that we don't want spit all over our faces?
One of my personal worst experiences was when a guy did something one of my friends dubbed "The Vaccuum Cleaner". Basically, he took his lips and clamped them around both of my lips and sucked -- hard -- creating a vaccuum-like feel. Let me tell ya, that guy didn't get a call back. And I love it when a guy tries to use his tongue too much -- it reminds me a lot of a dying fish, flopping around as it takes its last breaths.
Now, this may sound harsh, but I'm not trying to be mean. Think of this as a learning experience -- a chance to improve your technique.
I think the lesson to be learned here is that most women do not like a lot of tongue, or spit, or sucking, or anything like that. Be soft, and gentle. A little tongue action here and there is a good thing -- too much kills it. We don't want to be gasping for air when we finally separate, because their tongue was shoved back around our tonsils. We don't want to have a rash around our mouth because your five o'clock shadow was scratching our mouth. We don't want to have to grab a napkin as soon as the kissing ends because someone couldn't control their saliva.
Take notes, and keep this in mind in the future. Just because no girl has complained before does not mean you are a good kisser. We don't complain -- to you. But all of her friends will get to hear about the guy who sucked on her chin, or choked her with his tongue. Use this as a learning experience, and maybe girls will have one less topic of conversation to discuss over drinks together.